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Whether you have come here because you suspect someone in your life is a Narcissist, OR you yourself have been named a Narcissist by someone in your life, in either scenario, the information gathered on this website can help you understand more about Narcissism.
Take the time to read the information our website and other resources found online. You will notice that you or your suspected narcissist might not fit all the ‘cookie-cutter’ checklist of narcissistic personality traits, this will only confuse you further, however it is important to know that there are different types of narcissists in varying degrees across the spectrum. We ALL carry attributes of narcissism to a certain extent and it is second nature to care for and look out for oneself but this is not Narcissism. Quite simply put, Narcissists only care for themselves and have no empathy, concern, or remorse for how they treat or hurt others. Chances are if you are already suspecting your partner as ‘narcissistic’ then you are not wrong, and if someone has named you a narcissist you are prone to wondering if this is nothing short of name calling and character slandering or if there is any validity to their claim . We should also note at this time that it is difficult to diagnose someone with NPD (Narcissist Personality Disorder) and a diagnosis of NPD indicates the extreme end of spectrum personality traits for Narcissism. This website’s purpose is not to diagnose people, but instead to provide information. The key to remember is that you were brought here for a valid reason even if you still hold doubt. With or without an official NPD diagnosis, we hope the information in this website will help you learn more about Narcissism, and offer you support and guidance on how to cope/change, heal, and move on from relationships (of any kind-spouse, family, friend, co-worker) that is spoiled by Narcissism so that you may find peace and happiness again.
Clinical Definitions of Narcissistic Personality Disorder:
Narcissistic Personality Disorder is characterized by a long-standing pattern of grandiosity (either in fantasy or actual behavior), an overwhelming need for admiration, and usually a complete lack of empathy toward others. People with this disorder often believe they are of primary importance in everybody’s life or to anyone they meet.
As a culture, we are highly concerned with self-esteem. And this is a good thing. How we feel about ourselves determines how we treat those around us and vice versa. In 1890, William James identified self-esteem as a fundamental human need, no less essential for survival than emotions such as anger and fear. And yet, we often fail to measure the many distinctions between self-esteem and vanity, or we fail to understand how our actions and reactions can serve to bolster one as opposed to the other.
The distinction between self-esteem and narcissism is of great significance on a personal and societal level. Self-esteem differs from narcissism in that it represents an attitude built on accomplishments we’ve mastered, values we’ve adhered to, and care we’ve shown toward others. Narcissism, conversely, is often based on a fear of failure or weakness, a focus on one’s self, an unhealthy drive to be seen as the best, and a deep-seated insecurity and underlying feeling of inadequacy.
Narcissism encourages envy and hostile rivalries, where self-esteem supports compassion and cooperation. Narcissism favors dominance, where self-esteem acknowledges equality. Narcissism involves arrogance, where self-esteem reflects humility. Narcissism is affronted by criticism, where self-esteem is enhanced by feedback. Narcissism makes it necessary to pull down others in order to stand above them. Self-esteem leads to perceiving every human being as a person of value in a world of meaning.
*Note: This definition and many others are as described by Psychologists in the study of narcissism and Narcissistic Personality Disorder, though there are notable differences between the study of narcissism from a professional perspective versus the actuality and experience of a person living with and loving a narcissist.
Disclaimer: We would like to state that we are not in a position to diagnose anyone with Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) and neither are you. Only a trained, objective psychologist working in a clinical environment can make that determination. However, knowledge of the signs and symptoms of NPD and pathological narcissism is a useful tool for you to gauge your own suspicions about your partner’s degree of narcissism and allow those suspicions to guide you in making decisions to protect your own health and well being.